Negative emotional reactions that reinforce victim consciousness have become your default method of distraction.
Continuously shifting the blame, feeling helpless, wallowing in self-pity, compassion seeking, and self-abasing mind chatter are not only limiting but also incredibly self-destructive.
To introduce change you must recognize your habitual ways and start owning your reactions. Shift your perspectives, stop playing the victim, and re-define how you react to your circumstances and social interactions. Up until now you have used these methods to avoid responsibility and the need for healing past emotional wounds. Instead of thinking that you are being dealt difficult situations, acknowledge that you are in fact creating them.